Book Club: Boundaries, Anger, and Forgiveness (Ch. 12, Women Who Run With the Wolves)

This is our Book Club episode where we discuss a chapter from our current book choice: Women Who Run With the Wolves by Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes. In this episode, we discuss chapter 12: "Marking Territory: the boundaries of rage and forgiveness”.

Summary:

This chapter is an exploration of anger. It focuses on learning how to use rage as a teacher, and it looks at how forgiveness can be a healing process for when you are stuck in old rage. This episode is for you if you want to learn more about anger and how to work with it. It’s for you if you want to use your anger as a powerful emotion to help you create boundaries and transformation in your life or in the world. It’s also for you if you ever find yourself stuck in old resentment, replaying tapes of grievances, and feeling like this no longer serves you or helps you to develop personally or to create new things.

In this episode we discuss:

• The difference between clean anger and old rage
• How to use anger as a teacher to create boundaries
• How to transform old rage through forgiveness

Resources mentioned in the episode

• The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor
• Codependent No More by Melody Beattie
• Outing the Predator, episode 5 of Full Heart Free Voice Podcast
• Resource list for recovering from abusive relationships

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Full Heart Free Voice links:

• Affiliate Shop (Clarissa Pinkola Estes Audio Classes)
• Instagram

Emma's links:

• 3 habits to calm your fear and start writing
• Emma's website

Caitlin's links:

• Finally start your passion projects
• Activation session for your creative process
• Multi-passionate coaching
• Wedding coaching
• Weekly multi-passionate PSA

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Attributions:

Theme music: Wally Ingram, Stevie Blacke and Tom Freund. You heard portions of their tracks “Shine a Light” and “Udu ULove” from their record Spadé.

Fairy tale music. Keven MacLeod, found on YouTube Studio

Original cover art created by: Caitlin Bosshart

Disclaimer

This episode is not a replacement for therapy, mental health care, or any medical treatments you may need. You are completely responsible for your health and well-being. You are fully responsible for the decisions and actions you take with regard to your life and affairs. This podcast does not create a coach-client relationship between you and the hosts of the show.

Chapters

• 6:42 Chapter synopsis
• 14:27 Beginning of chapter discussion
• 17:12 Caitlin on anger as a teacher
• 32:00 Emma on the victim-persecutor triangle
• 37:50 What Emma and Caitlin are up to
• 49:07 Emma on forgiveness being a complicated word
• 52:50 Caitlin on the shades of gray of forgiveness
• 1:05:50 Quotes